We all need our space, the space where we can create our own cocoon to recoup. And when one half of a couple calls to be left alone, it’s nothing to do with the rest half of the couple. It actually might just not have anything to do with you. In fact, sometimes we need to be left alone to sort things out and straighten them, which have apparently gone wrong.
But, what happens is on such a note is that you never take it the way they actually mean you to take it. Your ego gets hurt and you try to confront the person on what has happened. Any finally this confrontation itself blocks the remaining space and the matter escalates to hurt feelings and disagreement.
It is a mere act of insecurity not to let your loved one have their space. This would lead to feelings and thoughts those are not healthy.
To be seen, a relationship is about giving, and most important thing to be given to your loved one is the gift of space. Respecting the boundaries set by one and following its limits. But yes not forgetting to jump inside the boundary once in a while, helps. If we can allow this without been threatened and the other person does not feel guilty for having the alone time would allow it to be a positive experience for both which in end will serve to strengthen the relationships rather than diminish it.
Monday, March 17, 2008
Lets Talk . . .
"The more we live by our intellect, the less we understand the meaning of life." - Leo Tolstoy
With the entire technology boom and the race to invent most efficient ways of communication, we apparently are loosing the ways of effective communication. Communications devices like iPhone and Blackberrys have become a part of our lifestyle, but are we ever able to really justify its use in the right way?
Let’s see how good are we at communication. How many times do you get up in the meeting to actually take a call? How many times a day do you really delete an e-mail without even reading it?
The whole point is not about one using the communication device to communicate to others, the problem is when it’s the time for him to listen. Actually, we are becoming worse listeners by the day. It is not easy to listen to people. Really listening means giving someone your full attention but how does one pay attention with their cell phone ringing, SMS’s flying in every direction, email downloading by the truckload?
We have set us in the pace for mastering the art of communications but all we mastered was art of technology, nothing else. But yes, we yet keep inventing new ways to communicate.
With the entire technology boom and the race to invent most efficient ways of communication, we apparently are loosing the ways of effective communication. Communications devices like iPhone and Blackberrys have become a part of our lifestyle, but are we ever able to really justify its use in the right way?
Let’s see how good are we at communication. How many times do you get up in the meeting to actually take a call? How many times a day do you really delete an e-mail without even reading it?
The whole point is not about one using the communication device to communicate to others, the problem is when it’s the time for him to listen. Actually, we are becoming worse listeners by the day. It is not easy to listen to people. Really listening means giving someone your full attention but how does one pay attention with their cell phone ringing, SMS’s flying in every direction, email downloading by the truckload?
We have set us in the pace for mastering the art of communications but all we mastered was art of technology, nothing else. But yes, we yet keep inventing new ways to communicate.
Wednesday, March 5, 2008
Why blind dates so often fail
These are some scans I found online. Found could be pretty much cheerful addition to my not so cheerful Blog.
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